Teamwork

How easy it is to think that cancer is an enemy because of all the pain....and, yes, to me, it is an enemy. The damage it has brought to my body is heartbreaking;  the confusion and fear, and the challenges on marriage, parenting, and finances are huge. 

But at the same time - it is an ally. The lessons it has brought to me and my family are also great, many times, touching, heartwarming, wise, embraceable - oh there are still so many positive things that, I don't have the words for now.

One of the lessons my husband and I are learning is teamwork. We knew even from the very beginning of our marriage how important it is.  But I believe many married couples, if not all, would agree with me how difficult it is! Sometimes, it even seems impossible! But cancer has somehow, naturally, helped us know more about how it works. No, couples don't need a crisis to learn it. It is unfortunate that we are learning it the hard way, but it is amazing, nonetheless, that "our eyes have finally been opened to the wonderful benefits of teamwork." 

Ever since we got into business, my husband and I tried (Yes, that's the word, TRIED) to work together as a team but.......We always had different ideas of doing and handling things. What made it harder was we were both passionate for what we thought was right or best for our work and.....the rest is history.

This sickness - an enemy - but also, an ally - somehow, put us in our places. I was brought to a humbler place, and my husband, to his leadership position. 

I, being in a humbler, quieter place, do a lot of - being still - thinking, reading, writing, watching what's going on around, and praying. Being in a "humble" place doesn't mean doing nothing, being quiet all the time, or being weak. It means knowing your place, being content with it, and doing only the part that you're meant to do, no more no less. Now that I am knowing more about my part in my marriage, I can honestly say that I am happier. There is more peace and joy in my life. I have more appreciation for my husband's strength and leadership. Our communication is more respectful and gentle which brings understanding and (cough, cough), agreement. 

How wonderful it is for a husband and wife to accept, appreciate, and ACT accordingly; to listen to, respect, and love one another. It is one of the greatest rewards we can have and THE GREATEST GIFT we can give to our children. 

For that, thank you, cancer.